Did you ever hear of the expression “you’re your worst enemy”? That’s the best way to describe self-sabotage. These times when you act against your own interest are stopping you from reaching your goals and fulfilling your potential.
Let’s have a look at the most common ways that women self-sabotage themselves.
“I shall just wait…”
You have worked hard and delivered the best results in the whole team. Yet, you don’t brag about it and hope that someone will notice your achievements and reward you for your contributions. Wrong! Next time you are in this kind of situation, make sure you talk about your potential and showcase your victories. It will boost your confidence levels and create a good foundation to empower you to ask for what you want.
“I can’t do it…”
How many times you were about to make a (potentially) life-changing decision and this little voice in your head tells you that you can’t do it? Definitely, too many times. You may want to start paying attention to these thoughts and change your attitude towards yourself. The truth is that you are a fabulous human being capable of more than you think!
“It needs to be perfect..”
This includes overthinking, overanalyzing and procrastinating. The reality is – perfection does not exist! You do not need to be 100% sure of what you are about to say or do, so just put yourself out there. That paralysing hesitation feeling can block you from taking risks, trying something new and actively participating in your life.
“I’m sorry, but…”
Some women apologise for absolutely everything because they feel like they asking for too much. The issue is that apologising before expressing your opinion or asking for something, completely discounts the second part of the sentence. It also depreciates your value, so the next time you feel the “I’m sorry coming”, skip past it and go straight to what meant to follow.
“It’s so old…”
Another very popular way of sabotage is when a compliment is followed by some sort of negative response. And it almost looks like we have got a negative answer to any compliment about hair, outfit or intelligence. Do not give away your power to this little evil sitting inside your head and the next time someone gives you a compliment, simply smile and say “thank you”.
“I like to be comfortable…”
We do not get to realise our full potential, because we like the comfortable and familiar environment. The truth is that your big vision does not belong in your comfort zone and thinking too small robs you from your talents.
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